What my “quiet time” usually looks like: Kids running around in chaos.
What my “quiet time” sometimes sounds like: Kids crying in the midst of kids running around in chaos.
Every now and then, I’m the one whining. When I’m not, I try to just push through anyway. Distracted discipline still counts, right?
It’s one of the most challenging things about being home with the kids…getting any time alone. One of my friends used to teach her young children to tell time so that she could tell them what time the clock had to say before they could come downstairs each morning. It helped because let’s face it, if you wake up early, they will wake up earlier.
When I talk about this with another friend, she always laughs and reminds me of Susannah Wesley pulling her apron over her head to pray.
I guess I should start wearing one, but until then, I thought I’d share with you a few things that have helped me be more consistent with my quiet time and some ideas I have for the future.
Make it a priority.
First, make your quiet time a priority and let your children know it is one. I tell them, “I’m going to do my Bible study now.” This way, they know that I am not ignoring them, but that I am busy doing something that is important.
Give your kids something to do.
Second, give them something to do in the mean time. Often, I let my son watch a video during my Bible study time and give the babies each a bottle. When my older child is home from school this summer, I plan to let her begin doing her own Bible study at this time so she, too, can get into the habit.
Don’t let distractions deter you.
Deal with interruptions then move on. Obviously, I’m not going to make it more than five minutes without being interrupted (if that!) so I just pour the milk, help them to the potty or whatever the need may be then go back to what I am doing. This might mean that a twenty-minute study takes forty-five, but I’m mothering in the meanwhile. It’s not wasted time.
Give yourself some grace.
Go easy on yourself. Just because you’re mind might be a little distracted doesn’t mean it’s not being renewed. Leave a little room in your expectations and set attainable goals.
Choose Bible studies that fit your lifestyle.
If you prefer to use a Bible study book, look for studies that fit your schedule and your season of life. Some of my favorites are Beth Moore’s Personal Reflection Series. They take less time each day than her regular study books, but I have never felt what I was studying is “watered down” in any way. I love that you are given a passage to read in your Bible and a way to pray God’s word at the end of each day. Check them out! (90 Days with the One and Only will always be one of my most favorites!)
Call for quiet time.
Take the time whenever you need it. Some days I realize mid-way through that I am in serious need of a better attitude. Call for a quiet time. Give the kids some books to read, put everyone down for a nap, whatever! Read a love letter from your Father and feel the day get better. Read it to them, too.
I’d love to know how you manage to make a quiet time part of your busy routine. Leave a comment. Your words just might help another mom find the solution she needs!