What should a Christian woman wear? Colossians 3 makes it pretty clear, and just so you know: the writer wasn’t talking about clothes. Read on to find out what a Christian woman can wear that will always be in style.
Sunday morning often gets the best of me. My husband walks in the bedroom and looks at me like I’m crazy.
I can’t really blame him.
He often finds me standing stock still, staring at a closet full of clothes, saying, “I don’t have anything to wear.”
Some mornings, the room looks like my closet erupted, spewing clothes all over the room and shoes all over the floor.
And there I am in the middle of it all, staring blankly at clothes I don’t want (or can’t) wear.
By the time we get to church, my rushed makeup job doesn’t hide my hideous attitude.
When that happens, the problem isn’t my clothes. It’s the fact that I’ve forgotten to put on the most important things.
Colossians 3:12-14 says:
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues, put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
You see, no matter what clothes I’m wearing, there are a few accessories a Christian woman should never go without.
According the verses above, we should always wear compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness and love.
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The question is: how?
Today, I want to look at each aspect of a well-dressed Christian woman and see how I can put on those positive traits. Will you join me?
When I hear the word “compassion,” I almost automatically think of a young girl named Neema, who lives in Tanzania, and almost never receives letters from the family who sponsors her. “Compassion” makes me think of the organization that provides food and medical care for kids like her all over the world.
I don’t often think of my own heart.
But I should because compassion is the first thing Paul mentions when he tells us what we should be wearing every day. Compassion is the first item in our list of accessories.
Isaiah 1:17 says, “Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed. Take up the cause of the fatherless; plead the case of the widow.”
In Zechariah 7, the Lord said, “Administer true justice; show mercy and compassion to one another. Do not oppress the widow or the fatherless, the foreigner or the poor.”
As Christians, we should care about the needs of others. They should matter to us because they matter to God. We should be compassionate because he is.
“The Lord is gracious and righteous; our God is full of compassion,” according to Psalm 116:5.
In Matthew 25, Jesus gives us a glimpse into how important our compassion is to Christ. He said that whatever we do for others, we do for him. Neglecting their needs is neglecting our God.
Kindness and compassion go hand in hand, don’t they? Compassion is noticing and caring about needs. Kindness is acting on the compassion we feel.
Proverbs 14:31 says, “whoever is kind to the needy honors God.”
Of course, we can show kindness with more than our actions. Our words have the power to show kindness as well.
After all, “anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.” (Proverbs 12:25)
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A Christian woman who is kind can have a huge impact on the world around her. Think of the woman in Proverbs 31, who “opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.” (verse 20) She is an example of the truth in Proverbs 11:16, which says, “a kindhearted woman gains honor.”
Of course, as a Christian woman wearing the seven accessories of Colossians 3, I should not be out for honor. I should be humble, just like Christ.
Ladies, we need to obey the words of Philippians 2:3-4, which says, “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
Sometimes, Humility goes against everything in us and always against the ways of the world around us.
But it is the way of Christ.
“In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant.” (Philippians 2:6-7)
As Peter put it: “All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, ‘God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” (1 Peter 5:5)
Gentleness & Patience
When we have true humility, it’s not nearly as hard to be gentle and patient.
Because we stop expecting so much. We don’t lose our tempers as quickly because we know just how often we fail, too. When we’re humble, we can be patient because we recognize that our needs might not be the most important at any given time.
We become more like Christ, who was gentle though all-powerful, and patient though perfect.
I think of a woman, hurrying around, busy with all she had to do and an attitude to match the look on her face.
“Don’t you care?” she asked. “Tell her to help me!”
I may be wrong, but in my mind, I imagine a soft voice saying, “Martha, Martha…”
Maybe because I’ve often felt him say, “Charlie, Charlie….”
He wanted her to rest.
At his feet.
He wants the same for us.
When we do, other things get put into perspective.
Like our own sin, which makes it so much easier to forgive the sins of others.
When I was in college and dealing with my parents’ divorce, Colossians 3:13 changed my life.
Because I couldn’t do it.
It says, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
How on earth?
Do you know how the Lord forgives? Completely.
Psalm 103:12 says, “as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”
They are gone, y’all.
He gets rid of them and then do you know what he does?
He forgets they ever happened.
Hebrews 8:12 says, “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”
That’s the part I couldn’t get my head and heart around. How can I forgive like that?
I mean, am I the only one who remembers the pain of the past? I wanted to forgive but couldn’t forget.
Finally, I realized that I had a choice. Every single day. Each time I remembered the pain, I repeated the promise: I forgive.
Because God had a choice, too, and like my decision to forgive helped restore my relationship with my father, God’s decision to forgive restores his relationship with us.
That’s what he wants, after all. He wants to reconcile the world to himself.
And do you know what?
He wants us to be part of that, and being clothed in Christ makes it possible because:
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come. The old has gone; the new is here! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are, therefore, Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us.” (2 Corinthians 5:17-20)
It’s not always easy to be his ambassador, especially in a world that doesn’t want him. But “Christ’s love compels us.” (2 Corinthians 5:14)
You see, without love, none of the other items we’re wearing are worth very much.
They’re like fake jewels, while they might shine and catch others’ eyes, they don’t hold up to close inspection.
Without love, neither do we.
1 Corinthians 13:1-3 says:
“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.”
Love is more than a feeling; it’s a mark of our faith.
Jesus said, “By this, everyone will know you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:35)
Love is more than merely an emotion. It’s who we are because it’s who he is.
After all, “God is love.” (1 John 4:8)
So, “we love because he first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)
Above all the other accessories Paul says to put on, love is the one we should never leave home without.
Any thoughts? I’d love to hear them! How do you practice putting on these essential accessories?
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Sarah Geringer says
Such an encouraging post, Charlie. I like your personal stories, and I needed to hear the part about forgiveness today. Tweeting and pinning this great post!
Thank you so much, Sarah!
Michele Morin says
So often I find myself clinging to the truth of these verses, because compassion, kindness, humilty, gentleness, and patience do not come naturally for me at all. So great to be reminded today that, by GRACE, we put them on like a garment.
They don’t come naturally to me either, and homeschooling without them is a disaster waiting to happen! Thank God for his grace!
Donna Reidland says
Great post, Charlie! I love the way you pictured these as an outfit we need to put on. I definitely need God’s help to dress this way!
Me, too! Thank you so much for your encouraging words!
There is no law against this fashion! We need this to be our basic fashion sense!
Amen to that!
First, I love your blog! Second, I love your heart. This was a great post and is a great reminder of all the attitudes we are called to have. Thank you for this!
Cassie, thank you so much for your sweet words! What an encouragement you are!
I loved this! So often we can get caught up with appearances that we can forget to go deeper.
You are so right!
Love this!! So important to wear all of these daily.
Love you, precious friend and sister! This is beautiful.
Thank you so much!
All Things Allison Marie Blog says
I absolutely love this post! Such an encouragement to me. Pinned to Pinterest!
Thank you! I am so glad to know this post encouraged you. Thanks for sharing it!
Went in thinking this was actually going to mandate physical clothing items, but this was quite the nice surprise!
Love this! Very true. These are the most important accessories we can put on. Very well said and encouraging. Thanks for sharing!