This week, I found myself sitting in my driveway crying over a situation I can’t control and hurts I can’t help. I had done the mama thing and walked outside so my kids wouldn’t see the complete meltdown I felt coming. And it did.
I hit the pavement and let the tears flow. I was awash in my own weakness, my inability, inadequacy, ineptitude. It hurt, and I needed help.
I prayed for it. I asked God to give it to me, to show me the way, to give me wisdom. He gave me an idea.
I picked up my phone and called a friend. I knew she was dealing with her own hurts that day, but I dialed her number anyway. I poured out my problems. I cried. She cried. We talked. Then she prayed.
She had no answers. She didn’t have wisdom I was missing. She was just there, pretty much as weak as I was.
But together we were stronger.
It’s amazing how often we try to walk through this world alone. We try to sort out everything ourselves. And the weight of all the burdens is almost unbearable.
Because we were never meant to carry them alone.
Galatians 6:2 says, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
Y’all, we’re weak. We’re not strong enough for all the things we face. The Spirit of God helps us, but so do his people.
We just have to let them.
It’s hard though, isn’t it? I mean, God knows my weaknesses, but my friends? Not so much. I don’t always want them to see the sin or the struggle or the selfishness I sometimes feel.
The problem is: they can’t help carry my burdens if they have no idea what they are.
We have to be honest, transparent, real.
I’m not saying we have to advertise our flaws and failings. I’m just saying we have to stop pretending they’re not there.
Our friends can’t help us if we’re hiding.
So, when you are weak, reach out. Phone a friend. Go grab some coffee and have some conversation. Let them listen. Pause while they pray.
Walk away with your load a little lighter because you are not carrying it alone.
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